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August 16, 2023

You deserve whatever situation you are in right now.

(I love starting things of with harsh truths.)

So do I.

I don’t know what your going through right now good or bad and you don’t know my situation either but what we do know, is that the actions that we took previously in our lives are probably what led us here whether we were influenced by other people or not.

Everything we do today is responsible for what our lives will be like in the future.

Everything we’ve done in the past is responsible for what our lives are like now.

Please read this with an open mind to understand exacly what I mean when I say this.

A lot of us do things that don’t affect us now but our future selves will feel it.

Then when the time comes its everyones fault but our own.

We take actions with our own free will, suffer from the consequences, then we take away the free will aspect by pinning it on an outside force.

This is why so many people aren’t able to take accountability and will never learn from their mistakes.

This happens to us consciously and subconsciously.

Think of the bad habits the average person might have.

A smoker is already aware that his health is worsening every time he lights up, but he does it anyways.

He knows that it’s bad in the long run and with every cigarette his health degrades.

But it’s not affecting him right now so it’s not urgent.

In 20 years that man could develop lung cancer or various other life altering conditions but by then it will be too late to take action.

That man deserves to have lung cancer.

It’s not that I wish it on him.

It’s because he had the choice to not smoke cigarettes for 20 years but he chose to compromise his health for short term pleasure.

Smoking was the action and cancer was the consequence of that action.

There are always consequences for your actions no matter how big or small or far in between they are.

Now with all of that being said, i'm not saying that if something terrible happens to you that it was your fault.

I know that there are some things in life that can't be avoided and those things can be very painful.

I'm saying that you can control most of your outcomes in life and all it takes is a little bit of accountability.

I myself have dealt with this problem a lot and i’m still working on it.

I’ve told myself that I’ll regret doing something and the other side of my brain convinces me that just doing it this once isn’t going to affect me in the long run even though I know deep down that it definitely will.

It wasn’t until I took accountability for my bad habits that I formed myself and saw them as an issue for me in the future that I began to find a solution.

I was having a problem getting into the gym and getting consistent.

I had been going to the gym for about 2 years but I hadn’t made much progress mostly because I wasn’t consistent in the gym.

There were times when I would go weeks to even a month without going to the gym and when I was “consistent” it was actually me going maybe 1 time a week.

I didn’t see any progress and on top of that my diet and sleep were horrible.

It’s not like I was in terrible shape or anything, but I just knew in the back of my mind that in 6 months, 3 months, and even one month from now, I would look at myself in the mirror and feel regret that I had gone another month without seeing any progress despite having 2 gym memberships.

I really wanted to be like the people online who can share their gym progress with others and also just be confident in myself and be healthy, but I kept messing up my progress with junk food and inconsistency.

I wanted to be in shape desperately, but I didn’t deserve to.

I didn’t deserve to be in shape because I didn’t make myself deserve it. I deserved to be out of shape.

I wasn’t committed to the gym, so I couldn’t do what I wanted, which was to use my gym progress to build a personal brand and to teach people like myself.

After I made that realization, I took accountability for my actions and used my frustration with myself as motivation to get into the gym.

Then, I made a commitment to go to the gym every other day without wavering.

From there, I instantly started to change the way that I go about my health in general.

I'm eating cleaner, getting better sleep, and I’m proud to say that I haven’t missed a gym session in nearly 2 months.

I'm making incredible gains in the gym and my physique is noticeably getting better every week.

I’ll give you some actionable steps you can do to take back control of your life.

I recommend taking out a notebook to write these things out.

It will help you better understand your thoughts.

1. Take a step back and look at your situation. What actions have you done in the past that led you to where you are today? These can be good things or bad things, but the point is to get a grasp of what habits you have now.

2. Blame yourself. This is the hardest part because your brain has probably outsourced all of your flaws to outside forces, making you believe that you aren’t in control. This is also when you take accountability.

3. Now that you’ve taken a look at what you don’t like, figure out what you do like/want. This will be your goal.

4. Associate that goal with something bigger and more meaningful.

5. Ask yourself: How can I deserve to have this outcome instead of my current one?

6. Develop a realistic system or plan to follow. This is something that you can commit to in the long term. It’s not a new years resolution, it’s a lifestyle change. “Don’t change your diet to change your life, change your life to change your diet”. This is how you make it do so you deserve what you want.

7. Take action. Remember that your outcomes rely on you and you alone. You have to adopt the idea that no other person or thing has power over your life and through that you will start to take control.

Take a sticky note and write on it “I deserve the consequences of my actions” and put it on your wall or computer.

I got this idea from Hamza Ahmed an YouTube and I think its a great way to remind yourself to take accountability.

If you’re reading this and you haven’t done the steps above, scroll back up and do them now.

Nice try though.

Thanks and have a great week.

-Abraham